My best friend once told me that there is a difference between the number of times you hang out with a person and the quality you have with a person.
I thought that quantifying a number of times you hang out with someone is what dictated just how much bonding actually took place but I was totally mistaken. Anytime you deal with quality, you think about the worth it is bringing in your life while quantity is really just about how much. With that said, you may be hanging out with your other half 5 times a week but you really don’t have anything more to that.
You have the same old boring routine of watching TV, hanging out with friends and nothing more, again my bestie said repetition is the recipe for disaster in a relationship.
You need to remember these 12 signs that are keeping you from spending quality time with bae.
1. You don’t make time for each other.
When you start working and you have other daily commitments, it can become hard to make time for the person you actually love and care about. Nevertheless, if you cannot even make time for each other then your relationship will not survive.
2. Always spending time in group setups instead of bonding together.
A relationship is between two people so its cool that you get along with each other’s friends but they are not part of your relationship. If you are always part of a group you end up exposing a part of your relationship that no one needs to be part of, on the same note chances are you will not be able to be lovey dovey because you don’t want to make your friends uncomfortable.
3. What happened to the romance?
After being together for a while the romantic part of a relationship just dies. I mean you practically know each other so well and finish each other’s sentences so it’s normal that you feel like you have settled but it’s not right. Once in a while plan something romantic for your spouse, it doesn’t have to be expensive it can even be a love letter or a dinner cooked for your other half. This is one of the most important ingredients for romance.
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4. You only watch TV and don’t even talk about anything.
You can sit by yourself and watch TV, I mean there are TV’s everywhere, but how do you make your time watching TV valuable? For starters, always watch something you both like instead of his FIFA games or your girly reality shows that drive him nuts. Pick a new series and follow it up together it will be fun and you’ll have more to relate with.
5. You no longer take the time to send each other funny texts or details about your day.
I mean surely this is the man/woman you want to probably end up with or thinking long term. Creating quality in your relationship also means you should have enthusiastic discussions about your day but this is a two-way street so make effort.
6. Never talk about your goals and passion anymore.
If you cannot talk about your dreams and ambitions things can get quite boring. There should always be a milestone you want to cross and something more you want in your life. If you only chill and talk about alcohol and other people’s lives then you need to rethink your topics. Be each other’s support when together as this will help you to be closer and connect on a deeper level.
7. You no longer try to have common interests and you’re not even bothered to look for any.
At some point you might drift away and start doing your own things in the name of space. Space is important but to a certain degree it is best to create common interests or get into each others worlds sometimes. Ask questions about his/her career or why they like certain things and even learn to do it you may just like it.
8. Listening to your partner has become a challenge because of other disruptions.
So you start a conversation then some Arsenal news comes on and you don’t listen to her anymore or you’re watching a reality show then you zone out. These things happen but it can disconnect one of you from even relaying any information on the other. Take time to listen and even offer advice or consolation if any is needed. The time you spend should be used to show that you are actually interested in your other half.
9. It is always a one sided conversation and not an engaging one.
Every conversation you guys have is just about one person with no room for engagement. This is not only boring but can make the other person feel drowned. A conversation takes place between two or more people, in your case, it is a relationship and a partnership, not a forum for one person to air out all their views and just rant.
10. You cannot chill without any digital entertainment.
You are totally doomed if you always keep checking your phone or stay on your laptop during your hangouts. Keeping in mind that quantity isn’t what we are after improve the quality of your relationship by just playing a board game or a simple paper game like animal kingdom.
11. Creativity died out and you can’t plan surprises anymore.
My friends, if you cannot try to be spontaneous every once in a while then you need to start coming up with one. Remember to keep within your own range, but this is a chance to know what your honey bunny likes and how you can impress him/her.
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